Confidence
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Although most of us did not experienced such a big "crises" the certainty that we all have our own ways to get a feeling of certainty (note that it is not about self-confidence but rather a feeling that we have an impact on our lives and we know what happens to us in future). Some meet the growing feeling of confidence is earning more money because they think that a certain sum of money, give them a sense of certainty. Others fall into a stable relationship, because it gives them a sense of stability in life and thus realizes the need for certainty. There are also those who gain a feeling of confidence in a more trivial way. Simply order that they will do in his office and immediately feel that dominate the situation. As you can see everyone has their own way to achieve certainty, some very sophisticated and some trivial. But what happens when we have enough confidence? What happens when a businessman has already achieved everything he wanted? What happens when we are in a relationship which gives us stability? How do we feel when we have so much confidence that we know exactly what will happen tomorrow, next week, and next year? Boredom and comes by blase. We are not able to enjoy what we wanted to achieve, because there we meet our other elementary needs namely the need for differentiation. (As in the case of the word "confident" the diversification has different meanings depending on the conditions of the language of the reader. By the term "diversity" I mean a sense of uncertainty to what happens, the need for diversity, variety). Each of us has this need, and everyone has their own ways to meet this need. Some occasionally go to the movies (do not know how to finish the movie), while others organize weekly libation (a few beers and you never know what would happen next), and still others change girls like gloves. All these are just ways of satisfying the eternal human needs - the need for differentiation / uncertainty / variety.
Each of us has these two needs (certainty and diversity) and wants to satisfy both simultaneously. Conflict is inevitable but we can make it stimulated us to develop?
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