Uncertainty in relation to
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This somewhat complicates the conflict in relationships. We meet a wonderful girl and we are extremely delighted with her meeting. We go on a date full of enthusiasm and excitement, but also having some concerns about the future development of our knowledge. We do not know how to develop our knowledge, whether it be something if the other person and depends on maintaining relationships. In a word we are full of uncertainty and the desire to gain a degree of certainty. We want to know that the other person to depend on us and that is giving us a feeling (such conviction will satisfy our need for certainty). The process of gaining confidence takes the first few months of knowledge. We are delighted that the partnership is proving to us their feelings and that it depends on us. Finally, we have the confidence they so wished. Having confidence that we are glad, however, for a short period of time. In most cases, takes the first 3-4 months the union. After this period, we have confidence that the partner cares for us and it depends on the relationship with us. What happens then? What happens when we are completely confident as to the feelings of our partner? Entering the second period called a period of decline in respect of excitement among the partners. During this period, we know what we feel for our partner, we are able to predict its behavior, and we feel that we know what will happen in the future, which causes a period of boredom and a loss of excitement among the partners. Our partner does not stimulate us already in the beginning of relationship when we were full of uncertainty and the company does not make us in such a strong state of excitement, why is this happening? After all, this is referred to as the same person? How have guessed this is a moment in which we are so much a sense of confidence that we lack a bit of uncertainty / variety / diversity. Such a period is a great test of any relationship. Many compounds breaks down at this point, because the easiest way to provide a feeling of uncertainty / variation is .... change of partner.
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